Loss is one of the many themes explored in counselling. It may be an objective reality - such as unemployment or illness; or a subjective experience, such as the fading of youth or the loss of life’s meaning. When we are attached to our expectations or desires, suffering naturally arises when reality falls short. Gains and losses are part of everyday life, but when something holds deep personal significance, its loss can be especially painful. From the perspective of the inner world, it is not just the loss of something important; it can feel as though a part of oneself has been lost, leaving life feeling empty and devoid of meaning.
People respond to loss in many ways. Common reactions include denial, difficulty letting go, sadness and grief. In more intense cases, some may experience depression. Others may turn to blame, accusing a loved one of betrayal or lamenting the unfairness of fate. Loss can also trigger fear, unsettling one’s sense of safety and existential purpose. In some cases, it may evolve into jealousy, leading one to resent those perceived as having “taken away” what was cherished, such as siblings or a third person in the relationship.
